This page describes the Acoin LDS-Divorce Recovery mailing list. The address of this page is http://www.acoin.com/lds-divorce/.

This list is no longer active. Try subscribing to one of the following:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lds-divorce-support
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lds-divorce

Both of these other lists cover this topic sufficient that this list is no longer necessary.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

This list is dedicated to members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints who are deciding whether to divorce, are in the midst of a divorce or are recovering from the aftermath of a divorce or separation. Divorce is permitted in the LDS church but very strongly discouraged. While divorce is not an easy thing for anyone, it can be harder for those indoctrinated with the idea that it is wrong in nearly all cases and that marriage should be for eternity. You are not necessarily a failure just because you got a divorce. This list will provide a safe haven for discussion of issues about divorce within an LDS framework. The focus is on figuring out the problems that may have contributed to your current situation and to solving those problems and moving forward with life.

Anti-mormon sentiments are not appropriate nor welcome on this list. Abusive and/or overly argumentative posts will not be tolerated. Every post should be an exercise in following the teachings of Christ. Anyone violating these rules will be removed from the list, perhaps without warning if the violation is blatant enough. Because forgiveness is the balm of healing, please attempt to refrain from casting your ex-spouse as evil. You can say what they did to you, which might indeed have been evil, but attempt to separate the sin from the sinner. Practicing forgiveness and mercy is a key to recovering from divorce as well as abusive relationships.

Only members of the list may post. There is no archive. List archival services may NOT subscribe. Privacy of list members should be respected.

Discussions that are off topic will not be tolerated. The list is not moderated, but it is refereed. There are thousands of other lists for plenty of other topics. If a discussion is interesting to you, but off topic, take the discussion off list and correspond privately. Off topic posts include discussions of doctrinal issues not related to marriage and divorce, political discussions, announcements of piano recitals and the latest virus warning. On topic posts would include such things as how to keep kids from feeling they are luggage, how to deal with an uncooperative ex-spouse, legal advise on divorce procedures, how to be a whole person without your ex-spouse, dating issues for those already divorced, dealing with bishops and wards as divorced people and issues relating to remarriage. Good patterns of communication will be encouraged. All members of the list should be striving to be better people.

The list is set up for private responses by default. If you want to reply to the entire list, use your e-mail package's Reply To All function rather than the simple Reply. While this may seem a bother, it makes sure that messages such as "me too" and "I really felt that way, thanks for posting" don't go to the entire list. Only those postings that might help more than just the original poster should go to the list. This will help keep the information to noise ratio as high as possible. Try not to quote the entire previous posting, only those parts that are relevant to what you are responding to. Do quote some of the previous posting so that some context is kept.

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The list is owned and maintained by Kelly Anderson.

There is another list called lds-divorce-support at http://www.egroups.com/ just search for lds-divorce-support. This is a very nice list.
There is a third lds-divorce list described at http://www.flash.net/~poly/lds-divorce.html. It is a more appropriate forum for discussion of divorce as a gospel principle whereas the other two are to help people work through the issues of divorce.